three

 after 1 year of working on a list that was continuously growing i have decided that it all comes down to 3 ABSOLUTE non-negotiables, the rest are just [strong] preferences or synonyms for:

1. HUMBLE
2. SELF-LESS
3. RELIABLE

Basically, the characteristics that make Christ, Jesus Christ.

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Edit:

FOUR

Humble
Empathetic
Reliable
Self-less