diffuse

generally speaking, this is how the bombs differ.

angry girl bomb:

attempt to diffuse the bomb. if you just walk away from it, the end explosion will be more massive than if you try to deactivate the bomb right away. more time does not equal easier bomb. you are down to the wire, my friend. so get to work!

why? because no matter what the issue is about, an angry girl bomb wants to know first and foremost that you still love her. even if she is mad, a brat, fighting... she wants to know you care enough to stay with her work it out. so a hug or telling her that you want to talk about it will definitely cut the bomb time short and prevent a mushroom cloud of consequences.

angry boy bomb:

don't attempt to diffuse the bomb right away or it's is just going to get testier and harder to disassemble. it will be frustrating for both parties because the boy won't understand your efforts and they will go unappreciated (thrown back in your face). however, if you walk away and give him space, the bomb will wither and combust on itself, or at least become a benign, more approachable version easier to maneuver.

why? because when a guy is angry, i don't think he wants you to pamper him with love or affection. it's just going to annoy him. he's pissed and needs time to cool off from the emotion overload. when he calms down from the anger, then carry on because he'll be more likely to listen to your tactics for diffusing.